Lily Allen admits she’s having trouble dating after her split from David Harbour.
The singer, who has daughters Ethel, 13, and Marnie, 12, with her first husband Sam Cooper, told Perfect Magazine in an interview about her upcoming album West End Girl: “The dating scene is much more difficult for a 40-year-old woman with two teenage children than it is for a 34-year-old woman.”
“I’m very sorry.”
According to the singer, there is an “element of humiliation and shame” in re-entering the dating scene because “the world doesn’t portray women her age as desirable.”
Allen compared her love life to the experience of “climbing a mountain.”
Even though she knows she doesn’t “need” to be romantically involved with anyone, something inside her tells her otherwise.
“Being in a relationship is not the answer to all my problems. In fact, it’s probably the opposite,” the actress confessed.
She said being with someone “feels like the easier option” even though “that’s pretty hard to achieve in the current situation.”
Allen explained that her parents were “not particularly present” and “she grew up in a very unstable household.” As an adult, she therefore “craved” to feel “centered” in relationships. In fact, she even called herself “codependent.”
Allen sings about the end of his marriage in an album he wrote shortly after his separation from Harbor.
Although she couldn’t go into specific details of the breakup, she told the magazine, “Two people who were once together are no longer together. And it’s really sad. It’s hard. It’s hard for me to lose my boyfriend, you know?…I thought it was over. I thought we were happy forever, you know?”
Regarding the aforementioned insecurities, she added, “I don’t think my past relationships have helped me.”
News broke in February that Allen and Harbor, 50, were going their separate ways after four-and-a-half years of marriage, with sources revealing at the time that their relationship was “on the verge of falling apart.”
Allen and the Stranger Things star met on a dating app before making their red carpet debut as a couple in October 2019.
The two ex-lovers married in Las Vegas in September of the following year, with an Elvis Presley impersonator officiating.
