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Emma Watson spoke candidly about her views on dating, love and marriage in a recent intentional interview with Jay Shetty. The 35-year-old single star called for social pressure to marry “such cruelty” and “such cruelty” and a “miraculous partnership.” Or I don’t think or should be forced because they’re not forced to the top of that, just as they’re not yet successful in life,” she said.
Emma Watson gave her first podcast interview with today’s intentional episode with Jay Shetty. She addressed a wide range of topics in her almost three-hour talk, including her decision to leave her acting.
However, she also spoke about love and still gave her most extensive remarks about her experiences and her views on marriage. She faced young people, especially young women, tied the knot and highlighted how harmful they were to their well-being.
For her, the pressure is “the least romantic thing I can think of,” she said. “It’s such a violence and I think it’s very cruel for people because people, especially young people, especially women, don’t force them to do anything I don’t think they should be forced to the top of that to make them feel unworthy or successful in life yet,” she said.
Of her personal feelings about marriage, Watson said in full:
I’m so happy that I haven’t divorced yet. That sounds like a really negative answer, but I think we are being pressured and forced into this, which I think is kind of a miracle. I might not be suitable for that.
I hope that happens to me. But I don’t feel qualified for it. It will become part of my purpose and my destiny here or not.
And I think the way we handle it is, “Well, why don’t we?” And this is what must happen in this way at this particular period and at a certain age. It’s probably the most romantic thing I can think of.
Really, if I had always been about to get married, basically about a year ago, it would have been a massacre. I still didn’t know enough of myself. I didn’t have enough ideas about my purpose, my vision, how to serve. I really didn’t know where I needed to be. I think I have some of those answers now.
So when I met someone I said (now) “Hello, I’m Emma. This is what I care about. This is the people I live most. This is where it makes sense for me to be in the world.”
And they can decide if I can see that there is a way to serve what they are trying to do, and they can serve what I are trying to do. But before that, they would have got a very mixed signal. There are some parts of me that are completely consistent. But there are some parts that I really tease and understand.
And I think it’s such a violence and that it’s very cruel for people because people, especially young people, especially women, don’t force them to feel worthless or that they’re not yet successful in life, and I don’t think they should be forced to the top of it or be forced. It honestly felt like I had to make money, work, I felt like I could see someone and tell them who I was, and I had to be in a place where I felt like I wanted to do and the ideas of what I wanted to do and what I wanted to do, and that it could change and grow.
That requires work. I really sat with myself with a lot of discomfort and asked myself that at that point there were lots of very difficult questions. That hasn’t happened to me yet.
She believes that everyone deserves love, partnership and marriage, but “it’s almost a different game… It seems like you’re actually sharing your life with someone, properly sharing it, and working with them.
She recalled what her mother told her.
That advice, she explained, was part of the reason why she didn’t get married as young. And I don’t think I was that woman five years ago. ”
When someone dates, Watson said it’s difficult to deal with her social perception as a celebrity that many fans have seen and grown up. “It feels like my avatar suddenly enters the room unexpectedly,” she admitted. “And if you don’t know someone is still me, I’m navigating a completely different conversation, which can really feel inhuman.
Dating is cruel for everyone, she pointed out.
“But I think it’s funny. Sometimes people apologise to me for the fact that they haven’t seen my films. And I say, ‘Don’t apologize.’ It’s blissful for me. Like the music in my ears, you’re not always going to navigate (it). ”
Shetty asks Watson what loves her. She spoke about how Hollywood and Disney films gave them a “very limited understanding” of what it really means.
Watson explained that when the film falls in love it seems irreversible. But when you fall in love, it “in a way it can be very easy,” she said. “It’s kind of easy. The hard thing is to actually dance with you and find someone who wants to partner with you in some way. And when I say I’m safe, I don’t mean anything from physical danger.
She said, “Loving someone is much more complicated than predictions where we have a desire or a bit of a feeling for someone else. But I think we have black and white ideas about what love should be, and I want to understand more before we go to the fight.
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