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More than a year after her split from Ben Affleck, Jennifer Lopez has new thoughts about being single. Sources talked about how Jennifer Lopez is growing and focusing her energy on her career. They also detailed their relationship with Affleck, saying that while they were friendly, it was no longer “deep.”
Jennifer Lopez has been single for more than a year since filing for divorce from Ben Affleck, marking a major transition in the actress’ life, sources tell Us Weekly. Lopez, who has spent most of her adult life in relationships, enjoys being alone and focusing her energy on her career.
“She’s learning that she’s stronger on her own,” one source said. “She enjoys her freedom and feels free to make decisions without compromise.”
“After everything that’s happened in her personal life, she’s focused on what she loves most: performing and creating,” another source added. Lopez is currently promoting Kiss of the Spider Woman, filming The Last Mrs. Parrish, preparing for a Las Vegas residency, and working on new music.
A third source agreed, saying: “She doesn’t have anyone to think about romantically. That’s working well for her and keeping her focused. Being single has really benefited her in that respect.”
A second source further elaborated on her dynamic with Affleck, who was a producer on Kiss of the Spider-Woman. The star is not interested in resuming their romance a third time. “She accepted that[her relationship with Ben]came to a natural end,” the source said, noting that it took her a while to recover from the breakup.
These days, “Jen feels more comfortable in her own skin than ever,” the source added. “She has a sense of independence and peace. She’s in a great place right now.”
She and Affleck remain good friends, and “there is still a deep love between them, but they both understand that they shouldn’t get married. There’s no ‘so-and-so did this’ or ‘this was the big thing,'” a second source said.
For now, “they’re all trying to maintain some kind of normalcy post-divorce,” the source added of the family. “This transition has been difficult for everyone, but they have made an effort to stay connected and spend time together.”
A third source shed more light on Affleck and Lopez’s current relationship, saying that the relationship is no longer “deep.”
“[She]hasn’t had much contact with Ben,” the source said. “She’s likely to stay in touch with her children (Jennifer Garner and Affleck’s three children, Violet, Finn, and Samuel). It was very sincere.”
Lopez recently spoke on The Howard Stern Show about how her divorce from Affleck was a huge blessing in hindsight.
“When I got divorced last time, it was the best thing that happened to me,” she began. “It really set me on a journey…I mean, I had a religious coach, I had a therapist, I had a couples therapist, I had a personal therapist. I had a coach to understand addiction. I had everything. I was like, ‘If this is going to kill me, I’m going to figure this out.'”
“It got to the point where I was like, ‘Oh, you’re the crux of the problem, no one else,'” she continued. “Since I’ve done that, I can now sit here with more confidence and self-awareness. What happened to me…whether it was my mother or my father…how I learned to love, how I was ignored. I know who I am as a person, and I feel really comfortable and good about being myself.”
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